So much of who we are is driven by our attachments. What are you attached to? Think about the things, people, ideas and beliefs to which you’re attached. It’s natural and normal for us to have attachments—we all have them.
However, I’ve come to believe that attachment isn’t good for us. What would happen if we shed our attachment to things, possessions, beliefs, biases, and even people?
Don’t get me wrong—loving someone and putting his or her best interests above your own (selfless love) isn’t the same as attachment. Owning possessions and taking care of them isn’t bad. However, assigning too much meaning and becoming attached to material things isn’t good for us. In the end, we don’t take anything with us. We never really own anything. We possess things for a period of time. One day someone else will own your car, your house, your stuff.
Why am I suggesting no attachment? Because those things we attach to begin to define us. Attachment to your title, your country club, the car you drive and your deeply-held beliefs limits your ability to see new possibilities. Attachment is our ego’s way of feeding itself. And our ego’s appetite is insatiable. The more you feed it, the more it wants.
What if we followed the advice of the author and teacher, Eckhart Tolle: “Nonresistance, nonjudgment and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.”
What would happen if we allowed new ideas, new people, even new beliefs, into our world? What if we didn’t judge, but said, “Hmm, why not, what if that person is right?”
What if we allowed ourselves to really see the world through the eyes of others, including both our adversaries and our closest friends?
We all reach a point in our lives when it’s clear that not only do we not have all the answers, but we often barely know the questions.
Try this for the next month. Think about what you are attached to, why that attachment is so strong, and what would happen if you let go of the attachment. How would letting go open a place in your mind and your life for new energy to flow and for new ideas to be considered?
Less attachment allows us to be more awake, more open, more free, more present. More alive!