What if today you approached every interaction, every task, every person, every email, every moment in traffic, and everything you read, deciding in advance to either enjoy it, accept it, or improve it?
Let’s look at the alternatives. We can tolerate, be frustrated, annoyed, antagonized, turned-off, offended, feel rejected, or simply sleepwalk through the difficult parts of our day. We’ve all felt these emotions and had these reactions. We’ve all let circumstances influence our feelings and behavior.
On the other hand, a few questions: What percentage of your day do you enjoy? Why? Why not? Isn’t it a choice? Remember the last time you were sick? It’s hard to enjoy even the basics like eating, showering, or just getting dressed. When we feel great, we forget just how enjoyable even the most mundane tasks can be. Now, think of all that you do that is or has the potential to be enjoyable. Every meeting, every interaction, and every task has the potential to be enjoyable, even amazing—it’s up to you.
Now, we all know that every day there are tasks, people, delays, and other speed bumps that may not bring pure enjoyment, but what’s stopping you from accepting them and gracefully moving on to the next thing? Isn’t it better to accept the things we cannot change? Why dial up your blood pressure, invite stress, and resist that which we can choose to accept?
And finally, the next category of interactions that we will inevitably encounter most days are those that we just can’t enjoy or accept. What should be our filter for dealing with these challenges, problems, and unexpected forces? These are the things that could easily be called the “bad” stuff. We can fight, ignore, or allow them to let our blood boil and have them ruin our day. That’s often our natural reaction.
We do have another option. We can work to turn them around, solve them, and improve them. This is where we can be the change that we want to see in the world.
When we focus on improving, we make things better, not bigger. This isn’t to say this will be easy, but with a clear head, a desire to fix, and the promise of a better outcome, why not try?
As you enter every new chapter of your day, ask yourself: Will I find enjoyment in this, accept it for what it is, or make it better?